Shower or Not to Shower.......

So, my mom and I were at Le' Target this past Saturday night (first time in a while she and I have done anything together with the family, much less JUST us) and somehow we got on the subject of martini shakers! She brought up the fact that my best friend got one 5 years ago when she got married and 1)it has never been taken out of the box, 2) we couldn't get the lid off of the shaker, 3) it's crystal. We tried to use it and couldn't get the little lid off of the place you pour from!!! So, the question was WHY get one that you CAN'T use?? My reply was that she probably put it on her "wish list" at some store and someone actually got it for her. With a little more thought, I told her that IF I EVER contemplate marriage and do the little "wedding registry" thing, that I would put some COOL USEFUL things on there!! Maybe a Martini shaker that lights up when you use it or plays a song or something!! Not a crystal one!! I am not the "crystal" type!!! I like nice things, but tend to be a little more practical (thanks to my mother).

Then........it got deep and sad. We went from talking about useless martini shakers to her saying "I never had a wedding shower". What do you say?? Yes, I realize that she got "knocked up" with me and got married at the Justice of the Peace to a guy my biological grandmother DISliked, but every girl that gets married should be bombarded with material things that she may need or just fun little gadgets she may not need. It's like a rite of passage to marriage to have showers. Hell, it's almost worth getting married to get one of those Kitchen Aid Standing Mixers!!! ( I would get a red one!! With the attachments to make my own pasta - not that i know how to make pasta or that I actually cook, but Jay does ;-).

My parents have been married 30 years as of July 30th. She never had a shower. She was never given her earned and deserved useless gifts. How sad is that?? From the very beginning of the marriage she was missing something. Something that I don't think she has ever found.

So my question today is this.........Is it too late to shower her??? Are there people out there that would understand and participate? Would she let me throw her a shower?? Would she laugh hysterically? Would it make her feel good??

I want to be showered. I want people to appreciate me being the center of attention for one day. I want to feel special, receiving gifts that will probably be returned in 5 days......doesn't everyone? Doesn't she deserve that?? The saddest part is...I don't think she thinks she deserves it............

By the way - my friend with the useless martini shaker.........she got divorced in April.......